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Let me tell you about what's going on with me right now.

My Mom has been out of work on leave since...the end of May. Around the end of May, ironically enough, near

hector_rashbaum's visit, Mom started having severe anxiety attacks and really started suffering through intense depression.

Since then, she's been working on herself and working through things to try and get back to being able to go to work. So far, this is her fourth week out of work and she's still not sure if she's gonna be able to brave going back yet.

I'm worried about her to the point that sometimes, I hole up in the bathroom and cry because I have no idea what to do. I'm looking for a job and nothing is happening.

I've spoken with people time and time again to get a job and nothing. I've submitted multiple applications and multiple copies of my resume and nothing. At this point, I don't know.

I'm worrying about Mom, I'm trying to find a job, and to top it all off, Molly's hurt.

Molly was playing in the yard when all of a sudden she yelped SUPER LOUDLY and then proceeded to try and play it off. She was limping kind of badly at some points, and we talked it over and made the decision to take her to the vet today, to see if she injured something.

She couldn't really get up on the bed without help, or down from it without help. She needs help coming back up the steps. She's having trouble going to the bathroom because she's holding her left leg so gingerly.

So we took her to the vet this morning and they said that she has something called Patellar Luxation. What that means is the ligament that's attatched to her knee has been torn and thus, keeps popping in and out of place.

What this also means is that she needs surgery. Surgery and a one to three day vet stay so they can keep an eye on her and such. Then we'll bring her home.

Once she’s home, she’ll have to be kept “quiet”, which basically means we’ve gotta keep her as calm as possible. No running etc.

This surgery and vet stay is going to cost anywhere between 1200 to 1500 dollars.

At this point, I'm ready to say I give up and be done. I just want to fucking cry because I don't know what we're going to do. I have no fucking clue.

None.

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I keep kind of just. thinking, over and over and over, "what can we do, is there any way we can afford this, what if we can't. we kind of really can't. why can't mom have taken the pet insurance out two days earlier. WHY IS IT ALWAYS US" and then whoops, kind of makes me cry.

We can't let her be in pain, we can't. But I do not actually see a feasible way for us to do this...even with our amazing and understanding vet letting us make payments.

I just. I don't know.

it'll work out, bb

Oh, honey. I wish I could help. :(
♥

I honestly can't stop thinking about it. I really, really cannot.

Thanks, hon.

all I can suggest is talk to the vet about if there's any kind of pet insurance or grants or anything to help you defer costs, or anything like that; some animal shelters and things have a fund for vet bills that can help?

I wish there was something, anything I could do to help you out, with any of the things you are facing right now, but that's all I can offer. :(

Well, see, pet insurance is something we've looked into. However, pet insurance will NOT cover patellar luxation because it counts it as a preexisting condition. :-(

And our vet WILL let us make payments, at the very least, but no, I don't think we have a fund for vet bills at our vet. Because, if anything, they will go off of what our tax bracket is and because of how much Mom brings in, we won't qualify for it. I'm not 100% sure if that's how it works, but I think it is. (It's the reason why we get rejected for food stamps. They don't look at what you're actually able to do, they look at how much you bring in and that's it.)

And thank you...I appreciate it more than I can tell you.

*hugs*

Oh, babe. I wish there were something I could do to help you out.

Let me know if there ever is, okay?

*hugs tight*

Like I told

hector_rashbaum "I keep kind of just. thinking, over and over and over, "what can we do, is there any way we can afford this, what if we can't. we kind of really can't. why can't mom have taken the pet insurance out two days earlier. WHY IS IT ALWAYS US" and then whoops, kind of makes me cry.

We can't let her be in pain, we can't. But I do not actually see a feasible way for us to do this...even with our amazing and understanding vet letting us make payments."

I just don't know what we're going to do. I've gotta work tomorrow night, which will be nice, because I'll be getting out of the house and I'll actually enjoy the concert I'm working (Def Leppard/Heart, woot), but even still. That's...maybe 40 bucks. Which isn't BAD, no, but still.

I keep thinking I should make a bunch of things and put them up for sale but then I feel like I'm begging people for charity and IDK. I just. I really don't know right now, honestly.

Thank you though. You are the sweetest person, hon. *hugs tight*

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*hugs tight*

Thank you so much. And our vet is really awesome about letting us make payments (we did it when Meeko was a wee kitty and got sick), but with Mom being out of work on leave, and contemplating another week, on top of the rest of our bills and such. It's just. It's daunting. It's so daunting and even with Mom's job, grammas social security (what little there is, honestly) and my tiny checks, we're still struggling. And just. I can't even.

Knowing that you guys are here for me and are listening (and if you look at some of the comments down here, I am crying like a baby over them because of them, jesus christ) is more than enough.

*hugs again*

*hugs*

*massive hugs*

*hugs tight*

does your city have like low cost vet hospital that could do it for cheaper?

How much is the payments that the vet is willing to do. I think that like tuesday or so I could help out with a bit maybe $100. i can send it to you.

We don't...but I think that even if we did, I'm not sure we'd go to them? Our current vet is the same vet that treated our old dog, Dobie, and her parents, and we've been taking our animals to Greenock since I was at least 6 or 7. On top of that, the guy who would do Molly's surgery IS an actual veterinary orthopedic surgeon. So, there is that. But I don't want you to think I just blew off the suggestion when I saw it on Tumblr; Mom and I discussed it at length this evening.

And at this point, we're not sure...Mrs. Puckett (the lady who actually owns the place) said that we'd discuss payments when Molly actually has the surgery. (You have to understand, we've known this lady for coming up on 18 years now. She's the best.)

And I. Oh my god, I have spent the last five minutes since getting online crying like crazy at this and

tellcincinnati's comment. I can't even. You guys are. I don't. I'm crying more than I can describe and I'm more grateful than I can even begin to describe to you that I have friends like I do, because I"m so fucking lucky.

I don't. Oh my god. I never once posted this in the hopes that my friends would offer me money and I am honest-to-god blown away by the sheer, lovely kindness of this offer. It's. Oh my god.

If you would like to send money, I'm going to go ahead and tell you that I'm going to write you a fic. Like, fic and a mix and earrings if you want them. (I can't even...just. oh my god.)

This. I'm stunned. So stunned.

*hugs*i really know how it feels to be in the position you are in now and I feel you are such a wonderful person I just wanted to help. :)

I understand about the low cost decision and i think you are making the right decision going with your vet and may God bless them for also being so understanding!

Fic is wonderful but you dont have to darling, srsly I really wanted to do this for you. But here is my email: shinodarely77@gmail.com so you can email how to send you the money. I can send a money order made out to you. or transfer from bank to bank. whatever you feel comfortable with.

*give molly a big hug for me ok :)

*hugs tight*

Thank you so much, shino.

And as far as how to send it, paypal is probably going to be the way to go. Unless, however, you're uncomfortable sending it through paypal and in that case, we'll talk other options. (It'll be easier, as well, to keep track of what's donated and who's donated what too.)

And I want to write fic for those of you who donate (or make mixes, or earrings, whichever) because I can't quite wrap my mind around such amazing generosity and I need to be able to give something back.

And don't worry, we are giving her all the hugs. <3

pay pal is good for me, like i said i think i should be able to send it tuesday :)

and i dont think we have ever really introduced ourselves so I am Violeta but most of my friends call me violet or Vi :)

if you write me fic it would be just awesome !

I still can't even..I just. Oh my god. *hands*

And I knew it from sending you the hollow book, but I wasn't sure if you liked going by it. I have a few friends who strictly like going by their LJ names or whatever, rather than actual names. So, hi there, Vi! I'm Chrissy or Christina, whichever.

And :-) If you prompt me, I will write it. No holds barred, you know my fandoms and what I absolutely won't write. <3 (I still can't thank you enough.)

*smishes you* you are making me blush srsly! :)

*smishes* You guys are making me into a weepy mess, SO IT IS EVEN.

Oh goodness, I'm so so sorry. :( I don't know what else to say. I just wish this was not happening to you and I'm thinking of you and your mom and your lovely dog.

Have you thought about setting up a paypal or something like that where your flist/rl friends could donate? I know you need it ASAP, but even over the next few days it might help. I wish I could spare more right now, but I think I might be able to send you $50 or so?

I'm going to go ahead and tell you that I've been crying like crazy over this and

shinodarely's comment. I can't even handle the sheer amazing of my f-list and of the amazingly generous offers.

I just. I'm crying and I'm so amazingly grateful and stunned. As I said, I never once posted this entry in the hopes of getting money and I'm just blown-away.

I don't. Oh my god.

I'm seriously considering setting up something, yeah. It kills me, because I hate borrowing money, which is why I'm debating about offering fic and mixes and earrings. I just. Oh my god, I can't even handle this.

You guys are just. I can't. Oh my god.

If you would like to send money then...I'm writing you fic and making you a mix(es) and if you want earrings, then I am your girl.

I just. *hands*

~hugs~

for what it's worth, I cared for my mother through her depression too, and I can both sympathize and understand that everyone's experience, both of the illness and of caring for someone you love with it, can vary wildly.

so if you ever need to vent, just go "hey, aki!"

(also, for Molly - do you live near a university that has a vet school? They often have cheap/free clinics where the students do the work under the supervision of their lecturers, so the care is excellent and it is SUPERCHEAP)

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*hugs*

Thank you so much, Aki. It's a little easier for Mom and I, because Mom and I always talk, and it's easy to talk to her about this and it's sometimes easy to anticipate what I can give her. So that's nice, you know? She's gone to her doctor and they've put her on an anti-anxiety medication, as well as putting her on Prozac. I can notice a difference? And I'm glad for that, but I'm so worried about her.

Thank you again.

And as far as Molly goes, we're honestly way too faithful to our vet to think about trying something else? Our current vet is the same vet that treated our old dog, Dobie, and her parents, and we've been taking our animals to Greenock since I was at least 6 or 7. On top of that, the guy who would do Molly's surgery IS an actual veterinary orthopedic surgeon. So, there is that. The lady who owns the place...we've known her for almost 18 years now? So she'll work with us, but between Mom's check that DOES take care of most of the bills, Gramma's fairly small social security checks, and my miniscule checks from Verizon, we're sort of staying afloat. Thankfully, due to FMLA (family medical leave assistance), Mom's getting her paycheck, but it's still a massively precarious situation.

So I don't know. I think that I'm going to offer up fic and earrings and mixes for donations or whatever, even though that sort of kills me. I dunno, at this point, I will worry about how guilty it makes me feel in favor of getting her fixed. And then I feel really opportunistic, because blaah.

IDK. :-/

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